Thursday Triumph: Overcoming Self-Sabotage with Grace
If you caught the latest scoop in yesterday's Wednesday Wonder: The Moms Are Not All Right, then you're primed for today's grand mission – conquering self-sabotage! Let's face it, folks, our self-talk is the unsung hero or villain of our daily narrative. It's time to take the reins and flip the script! 🚀
Here's your passport to a positive mindset with five fabulous tools:
1. Step One: Recognize what's happening
Picture this: destructive voices lingering like unwanted ghosts, wreaking havoc without an invitation. Say no to the victimhood waltz! When the downward spiral begins, grab that trusty pen and paper. Write down your mental state: "My mind is in a _______________." Yesterday, mine was, "My mind is in a tizzy. I’m going through the motions of life but without intention."
Why is this helpful? Because acknowledging the chaos is like switching on the light in a dark room. It's clarity in chaos, my friend!
2. Step Two: Name your anxiety
Meet your inner critic, probably a teenage version of yourself stuck in the melodrama of adolescence. Say hello and acknowledge the fears, but don't let her hog the mic. On the flip side, embrace your voice of reason. Mine's an 80-year-old sage – tough as nails, gentle as a lamb. You're the boss; you can switch drivers and unload baggage. When the anxious voice takes center stage, nod at her, acknowledge her, and then gracefully hand the reins to your inner powerhouse. When I’m really having a hard time, I actually picture my teenage self physically giving the mic to my dangerous old woman. It’s a moment of catharsis to say, I’m the sheriff in these parts. Let’s shift power structures here.
3. Step Three: Listen to your teenage self to understand her fears
Have a heart-to-heart with your inner teenager. There is no need to remind her of her undeveloped pre-frontal cortex. Acknowledge her fears – they're valid! Thank her for looking out for your safety, and gently reassure her. This builds a bridge of trust between your past and present selves. Most times, a little understanding is all it takes to calm the storm.
However, I want to add this caveat. This heart-to-heart happens on your timeline and according to your own self-regulating needs. Do exactly what you do with a raging toddler, “I see you are mad. It’s okay to be mad. Fists are for giving knucks. Mommy is going to take ten deep breaths in the kitchen. You are safe, and when I’ve taken my ten breaths, I will be back to help you, too.” Your timeline, your rules, your heart on the line.
4. Step Four: Make a Motion
You're no deer in headlights – you're a force to be reckoned with! Take intentional actions guided by your intuition. Pivot if needed; progress is a dance, not a sprint.
5. Step Five: Check In with the Voices
Say goodbye to the bus; you've got your own wheels now. No more relying on external transport – you're the captain of your ship, steering through calm waters. Look in the rearview mirror; witness your 80-year-old and teenage selves in lively banter. It's a glimpse into a future filled with love – your anchor of equilibrium.
In mastering these steps, bid farewell to self-sabotage and embrace the journey toward self-empowerment. Let's sprinkle a little sparkle on that mindset and see you shine! 🌟
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